cross-posted from: https://reddthat.com/post/43565899

Context: I’m 19 and have had my driver’s license since last summer. I was never interested in driving, but my family pressured me into signing up for driving school (they said it’s a basic skill), so I did it and got my license - somehow - despite never feeling safe or in control behind the wheel during the learning process. I haven’t driven much since then, but on the few occasions I did, I still felt out of control. Two weeks ago, I had a pretty bad car accident due to failing to yield the right of way (I struggle with multitasking). I got hit by two cars. Thankfully, my boyfriend was with me. He’s a bit older and much more confident, extroverted, brave, and uninhibited - he managed to handle the situation with the other drivers and deal with all the protocols for me because I was completely overwhelmed and just crying. Thankfully, no one was hurt, so I only got my license suspended for 60 days, a fine, and I have to pay for the damages. My dad settled all of that already. Now I don’t want to ever drive again. But my dad says it’s fine and that every driver gets into an accident at some point.

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      1 day ago

      Ive lived in a rural area & cities before lol, cars are needed in rural regions unfortunately. Cities however have very little need for them.

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          20 hours ago

          No, I am telling you as someone who lived in a very rural area it is not the case. I cycle and taking an hour each way to cycle to a small local town up multiple steep hills isnt entirely viable for day to day and during the dark months. Between towns such as where I worked in the town over from my local one? Forget it not doable. Villages with 20 people cant really be served by effecient bus services very well either

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            19 hours ago

            The mosy rural places in the world have been served by trains, before getting cars there worked.

            Life would be different, maybe, but I’m sorry, you’re projecting car brain here.

            There are several different train solutions that would work, and if you were genuinely interested, you would probably know about them by now.

            You just like your car.

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              19 hours ago

              I know of the former railways, they were all industrial lines that didnt really have decent passenger services up in the hills, sticking railways around the region for small far apart villages dotted all over the place? Lol lmao & I currently dont own a car and cycle everywhere but ok.

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                  17 hours ago

                  I live in neither of those regions and the terrain and size of settlements is different, the USSR had largely highly centralised concentrated settlements that were pre planned, Mexico is reasonably well populated throughout and often has towns on plateaus & again largely has recentish planned settlements throughout.

                  Kindly do not say I “dont know” about a region I lived and breathed and was born in for 20 years.

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                    17 hours ago

                    mexico

                    They’ve had cool solutions that would have worked.

                    Empty departure timings (anarchist railroad), my brain isnt so i can’t explain this well right now. Also been tried… Somewhere in i think europe.

                    Bring-services-to-you-via-train

                    the ussr

                    Fucking siberia. Fucking. Siberia.

                    Theres a first nations tribe surrounded by canada that has a cool solution too. Currently operating afaik.