Ol’ girl goes in for her colectomy tm. In for a week +.
Bit worried about the recovery as she weighs bugger all. Definitely not going in in the best of shapes. I’ve locked horns w/ the ol’ boy way too many times but the main thing is food.
Dude can’t cook and that will be a problem.
How the fuck you can go through life and best you can do is a crumpet or overdone steak is beyond me. Hasn’t even tried once.
I understand that generation is a bit different w/ gender roles etc. but following a recipe isn’t exactly hard.
Ffs, drop the ‘it’s a womans job’ shit mentality and learn. Seriously stuck in the 1950’s.
Thanks for reading my rant.
Light and easy are well tolerated by my older clients.
Local council might have assistance available - especially if it’s only for meals. If money’s no object, then hiring someone to come in and cook every couple of days might be a useful way to deal with this.
get lots of ready made frozen meals
call Meals on Wheels
then let him fend for himself
of course the worry will be he will expect Ol’ Girl to cook once she’s back home
expect Ol’ Girl to cook
Yep.
The problem is she can only eat soup, which he won’t eat. Expecting her to cook 2 different things in recovery is just not reasonable. She wants to be seen that she’s cooking (as weird as that sounds) but she’s increasingly making poor decisions in the kitchen.
The expectation that she cooks for him has been there for decades and it’s pretty much dangerous now (hot liquids / poor eyesight / weak etc.).
Made a whole bunch in the last few days so she’ll be fine. Just pisses me off there hasn’t been an effort by ol’ boy.
Is it possible that she could stay with someone during her recovery from major surgery and/or palliative care to protect her from this?
This is really not a safe or reasonable expectation - especially if he’s able bodied and simply considers the job beneath him.
10/10 rant except for the part where it is a very real problem 😔 the dickhead husband of my favourite aunt is a bit like this - he can cook some very basic meals and a couple of overspiced dishes. But it doesn’t matter how sick his wife is, he cooks when he feels like it (esp if there are guests to show off to), but she is expected to always cook. Really grinds my gears. Your old man might need a bit of a slap in the face about the reality of the situation…
Aren’t those meal kit boxes pretty simple? Helofresh
The kit is fine. The problem here is actually turning the kit into food. Hot liquids, stove elements etc. suck a big one when vision/balance/grip strength is impaired. Remembering my mother when she started her final decline - all the elbows of her cardies were burned through where she’d brushed them too close to the stove element … it amazed us all that she didn’t get seriously burned but that was the point where she had to go into residential care to keep her away from the stove.
They’re not really that simple, they do the planning and provide the ingredients but there is still a lot of actual cooking and chopping involved. They also don’t do single meals, so you either need to work out how to divide it over a couple of nights cooking or have a lot of leftovers.
I went through similar stuff with my parents and I do remember a dr explaining to me that people that age are unlikely to change their ways (probably after I’d expressed frustration about the situation), which was very hard to get my head around.
Could you stock the house up with microwaveable soups and meal packs (there’s a few companies that deliver). Hospitals also have social workers who can help, although if your dad is in the medical field I suspect he’d be resistant to ‘being told what to do’. Mine definitely was.
Could you enlist one of his mates or a rellie to have a quiet word? Or could your mum spend a bit of recovery time in a rehab place, if that’s an option?
I reckon you’re across all these things but just putting them out there. Sending healing thoughts for your mum and hugs for you - it’s such a difficult situation.
First time holding a bubs.
easier than holding a cat.
awww 💖
Physio mostly fixed it. Yay.
Also temu order is here. Saving it till after I feed the cats.
Sit in bed, uber eats, play with Gibson, unpack temu.
Not too bad an evening
Winning.
Nearly 3 months into my new role and I still haven’t taken a day off. I have a feeling I may be falling ill when kids have school holidays.
Everyone I know is getting the flu or a cold one after the other. Sounds like it’s your turn coming up
The news feels like foreshadowing in a bad apocalypse movie and I still need to go to work
It felt a bit like this when I was working on my thesis preso yesterday. Does any of this matter? Maybe we will be in WW3 by the end of this week. Whatever…
It reminds me of this meme I saw when COVID started of a Venn diagram of ‘still having to go to work’ and ‘the end of the world’. It feels like we’re in that overlap again
I’m desperately trying to ignore it all.
US politics
Israel has gone for Iran which I saw in passing, and looking now apparently the US might get involved. I don’t really like discussing US politics but kind of wishing we weren’t allied right about now
Yeah, Iran, the protests, the military parade. It sucks to know we’re on the side of the bad guys. It feels like one of those Lenin decade weeks so let’s hope for a similar revolution
Plus ICE, and reporters being shot with rubber bullets.
…I dunno about that part. Didn’t the revolution eventually result in Stalin? :/
Ran out of plates todayBabies!!!
So there’s 2. One is an absolute dead ringer for the dad. It’s interesting what features they inherit.
Saturday housework (indoors and outdoors).
Wanted to chill in the afternoon but fam wanted to go to High Point (kill me). At least food and coffe were okay AND it was indoors.
Yesterday wanted to chill, but son wanted to go to the gym and my neighbour asked me for some help (he’s a good one, so of course I obliged).
Working from home today but cannot be arsed going a damn thing.
day off today, no painting or hard housework , that’s why I painted my nails sparkly orange last night
Oooh that’s such a pretty colour! Excellent sparkle coverage! What brand?
Colour.
I don’t mind being an arm rest
Edit: My temu haul is fucking incredible!!!
we need details on the temu haul
When I get home tomorrow from work I’ll post pics. So many awesome clothes!
Cool.
Daylesford was cold as hell, but I lived
It is possible to freeze your arse off in Daylesford.
That’s why you need to have a cozy cottage with a fireplace in Daylesford.
Woke up with migraine at 4am.
Pray for mojo.
🙏
and gentle hugs
26 years ago, when I was in prep/grade 1, our dance/music teacher had us sing and dance to Aquarius/Let the Sunshine In
26 years later, having never heard the song since, I can still remember how it goes.
Time to play the song and see if you can remember the dance too
I reckon every Aussie school kid starts tapping their foot out when they hear Nutbush.
I wish Tina Turner had come to Australia and done the dance lol
Periods suck (tw: menstuation and poop)
My lower abdomen cramping and bubbling like a witch’s cauldron, the heinous poos, the feeling of exhaustion. And I ground my damn teeth last night so half my brain already feels asleep.
This week is poo week.
spoiler
Wait until you get older and it becomes a roulette game. Will it be light, heavy? Will it come today? Probably not and then when you least expected it, it pops in overnight when you’ve got important stuff to do in the morning.
It’s your body’s way of saying EAT CHOCOLATE.
Deal!!!
Wash it down with a glass of wine.
Woke up feeling great. Getting lightly loaded on hot toddys and a bit of weed seems to have done the trick. Thanks for all the advice.
I called in sick and my manager made me feel like a jerk for it 😭
I hate that attitude from managers. Hope you’re resting up!
I’ve got that sleep-in brainfog because I had an early one last night dealing with an obstinate child then woke up a little later than usual this morning. I’m still feeling it
Does that mean that the non-obstinate child is your favourite today?
They take turns. One likes to be consistently difficult but the other likes to pitch in when things look like they could be going smoothly
Tag team!!!
