Never have I been in so much pain in my LIFE SMH
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The only male doctor at my ob/gyn was visibly angry when I told him my experience getting the IUD. He said, “The women in this practice don’t give anesthetic and it makes me furious with them.” Way to be a decent human in a sea of assholes, dude.
This is my experience too, ironically. Lmao. One woman I even chose for her compassionate care awards. I never saw her again. I still generally seek out women doctors for other things.
My guess is that women who have had their pain dismissed for their entire lives fall into the trap of internalizing the dismissal.
This is actually a pretty good thought.
I can see why male doctors would be ignorant, but wtf is the excuse of female doctors here?
“I had to suffer through it and I’m fine”
I’m a woman and my first IUD insertion really didn’t hurt me very much. Uncomfortable, but quick and not too bad.
But when my friends complained about the pain during theirs, I believed them. Because we are all different people with wildly different bodies. I have empathy.
It’s not a difficult concept, but I think a lot of people struggle with it. “It was fine for me so anyone who complaints is making it up!”
Anyway, when I went to get my IUD replaced, the second insertion was absolute hell, so now I really get it. But I didn’t need to go through it myself to believe people when they say they experience pain. There’s so much evidence out there indicating that women experience pain. Is it really so hard to just believe the evidence?
It could also be related to how your cervix changes over your cycle, but that baffles me because surely gynecologists would know that and try to time things correctly if it made things easier for women.
Do they time it based on your cycle at all?
Close to ovulation, your cervix goes really soft and opens up, close to your period it changes position, goes really firm and closes.
I haven’t gotten an IUD so I have no personal experience with the process, but I imagine that trying to put an object through the cervix into the uterus would be best done at ovulation when your cervix is open. And probably extremely difficult and painful to try to do when your cervix is shut tight.
My wife came home from getting hers still in tears from the pain. I offered to go with, but the doctor made her believe it was nothing. Not content in simply hurting my wife, they set the string so it cut my fucking frenulum the next time we had sex! Took us nine months to find and book a competent gyno to fix her razor vag.
The worst part is my wife got the IUD because it was recommended by the gyno after she had a tubal ligation. It was not there to prevent pregnancy. They claimed it would make her period easier, the opposite was true. All that trauma and pain for nothing.
Wtf?! My doctor suggested Endometrial Ablation and it was PHENOMENAL. Yeah, they put an electrical net inside of my uterus and burned the shit out of me, but it was a one time thing and it stopped my periods, PMDD, mood swings, and lessened the chance of my Endometriosis coming back. More women need to do this. I’m so so happy.
90 percent of women who have an endometrial ablation end up with a hysterectomy. You were very lucky. Don’t recommend them, plz.
I’m terribly confused and would like sources for this statement. I have a medical science degree; and none of my main sources, peers, or anyone in the Endometriosis community mentioned statistics remotely close to that… and I researched it thoroughly because I also had severe PMDD.
It was a wonderful, easy, low-pain, and simple procedure, which gave me my life back… and I was on my feet shortly after. I swear by it, and am severely immunocompromised, so anything healing related that can go wrong will go wrong; yet I’m great, years later, and so so happy.
The main risks mentioned: Periods coming back, bleeding, infection, harder to detect cancer, and (ironically) sterilization.
Could there be another medical procedure that was in mind?
I believe I read that “women are unreliable informants of pain due to emotions. Where as a man can suppress his emotions and you get a real assessment of his pain.” Or something like that.
I’m a man, and, it doesn’t take a lot of study to know that pain is very different from emotional stress, especially when it involves GENITALS.
Since being seen by a neurologist for carpal tunnel, i have come to the conclusion that some doctors are just plain sadists. And I wonder if all this maltreatment of women came from some early docs that got together and went “y’know, we could cherry pick things here or there so we can get some good screams out of patients.” It worked too well, and they decided to protect it through practice because it was too much fun.
But I know the reality is that medicine is just plain sexist, and historically women were just “less important.” It’s fucked up.
