As the title says, what are your usual ways to deal with acute phases of dysphoria. For me its currently either going to sleep, weed, or trying to do something different so I dont feel like a complete piece of shit and just feel shit a little bit instead.
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Please reconsider if you’re thinking about leaning into a substance to avoid hurt feelings ;_;!
I’m transfemme and for me i fight dysphoria with euphoria.
- brush my hair
- put on cute clothes that accentuate my feminine shape
- fix my hair cuz getting changed messed it up
- shave, wash my face and put face lotion on
- eyeliner, little bit of eyeshadow, mascara
- delicious perfume
- brush hair, apply a puffy headband or barettes
- gaze at this pretty girl in the mirror and wish i had met her 20 years ago
i’m usually feeling better by then. ymmv but if you haven’t tried it, try it!
Roleplaying games. Games that let me pick my body and my pronouns with all the sliders, with dialogue that doesn’t try to tell me who and what I am. Even if it’s a fantasy world, I can turn off the rest of the world for long enough to recuperate and feel like the human I am inside again. It gives me enough of a reprieve to tolerate the people who don’t tolerate me.
Having friends who know me and see ME does wonders for my dysphoria too.
I have a playlist called “Loud Sleep” I put that on, crank the volume up enough that I can’t hear my thoughts and wait around until I’m so exhausted I either fall asleep or get sleepy enough that I take them off and pass out. I specifically use Skullcandy crushers so I crank the bass waaaaaay up and let it vibrate my skull.
It’s just a bunch of They Might Be Giants’ more aggressive/loud songs and a couple that mean something to me. It’s not really about avoiding feeling stuff, it’s all intended to make me feel more, just without as much thinking. It’s kept me alive on some really bad nights when I felt like all I could do was die.
The only thing I do is makeup. It’s a skill that takes time to learn, so it accomplishes consumption of time, gender affirmation, and self-improvement.
Affirming rituals. I find that doing my nails, brushing my hair, just little things I can do to help me break out of the spirals
Instant boobs:
https://unclockable.com/products/unclockable-bra-buds
(any bra)
corset, here’s mine but ik people dislike Amazon here: https://a.co/d/cxJrwAl (photos are exaggerated af lmao)
