I did say I haven’t spoken to him since he moved out of the house to a hotel. This is true.
However, he’s been trying to reach me online and is desperate. My father (54M) is a narcissist. Though a lot of narcissists can be well-intentioned, he has done more harm than good.
My father is an alcoholic. Though he stopped for a year or two after becoming really nasty and getting himself and possibly us banned in more than one place, he started drinking again.
I knew my father was a narcissist. I tried to be on good terms with him despite his “eccentricities.” When I received a message from him asking to tell my mom to get back with him, I reluctantly told her and she didn’t want to.
He got mad at me for this and said I betrayed him and brought dishonor to our Chinese family (we’re white Europeans, by the way, with no affiliation to China). Anyway, I blocked him and so did the rest of the family.
Later, on instagram, I found an account with a profile picture of something I was interested in trying to chat with me, claiming to be a 17 year old girl. When I started to chat with “her”, she eventually brought up the “dishonor” again because “she” is Chinese and would know.
He has also said “ 你给家族带来了耻辱，真是可耻！” He is not Chinese, but speaks it at least a bit. I blocked that “girl” and I’m really hoping he doesn’t do it again. What do I do?
“Pretending to be a young girl in order to commit fraud against your own child brings dishonor to your family.”
“Alcoholism brings dishonor to your family.”
“Narcissism brings dishonor to your family.”
“Put a family picture on your next bottle of alcohol to remind you why you’re alone.”
I’m genuinely sorry for your situation (coming from someone whose dad never managed to lose the bottle). I hope you can get a restraining order or similar on him
He got mad at me for this and said I betrayed him and brought dishonor to our Chinese family (we’re white Europeans, by the way, with no affiliation to China).
But that part made me actually laugh or loud
