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  • baines@lemmy.cafetoPeople Twitter@sh.itjust.worksToxic Masculinity
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    8 days ago

    if that’s what you want to take away from this go for it lol im done with what I wanted to say after this

    the nuance is that even crappy people can have worthwhile observations

    that you can’t seem to get past his conclusions and separate the wheat from the chaff isn’t on me

    that you keep trying to handwave this like women don’t massively have issues with platonic male relationships while we’re in a toxic masculinity post is again lol

    women are choosing the bear but you think somehow it’s all better as friends?

    the are so many examples of women complaining about this issue if you spend any time in female dominated subs





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    you keep trying to frame it like I don’t think he’s controlling or that I support his conclusion

    as to pretty women developing skills all you got to do is read a bit on the internet or hell female biographies for that matter to see how bullshit that is

    just because you develop tools to cope and defend yourself doesn’t mean it doesn’t fuck you up, some do ok but plenty don’t

    so yea it’s gonna be really really really hard for a pretty woman to have honest male friendships, that’s the nuance, not the turd boyfriend you keep trying to focus this on


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    9 days ago

    nothing is nuanced about his behavior, for sure it is shit and controlling

    what’s nuanced is how male relationships behave in modern western cultures(US specifically) and pointing out how a pretty woman is going to have a real hard time finding genuine male friendships

    and snark aside most his friends are probably not interested in fucking him as only about 1/5th are openly gay