

There’s a penny arcade comic that makes a good argument. About printing out your character as a figure or something they have/had. Heck I wonder if it that was part of the reason, unsure if it’s still offered.
I always enjoyed the bit of making my character looked like how I preferred though it wouldn’t detract me overly if I wanted to play. I play sometimes but not often.
Yes and maybe not then. Look at Newton’s law, even it deals with psychology if not physical action and realize that we (under some theories) have free will to make the actions that will cause those. So something will happen to make you (or someone else) do an action and even if you (or they) don’t like it it happened. You can look at it from 1000 angles but either way someone with that personality would make it happen that way.
So gotta just accept, it is what it is, try and make it better and I hope it works out. Mean unless you can see the future and change things, we all are who we are, may. It be worth knowing or hanging out with but somebody probably made something you don’t want to happen, happen. C’est la vie.