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Cake day: March 12th, 2025

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  • I was like you once. Had to move back in with my parents, couldn’t find a job for months on end. Floating through life without a fire in me felt like shit. Your problems aren’t trivial. Things will get better. Forgive the platitude, but despite what you believe right now, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

    I had/have a terrible anxiety disorder (still working on it to some degree, but I’m able to control it now) that was eating my life and my happiness away. What helped me tremendously was looking inward and asking why I feel these things without indulging any thoughts that came up. Objectively analyzing each thought and feeling without judgement. Each new revelation was followed by “well, why is that true?” Your emotions aren’t there for no reason, they’re indicators of your internal state like warning lights. Asking why they’re going off will lead you to the answers you want.

    From there, I accepted that my parents were straight up emotionally neglectful/abusive. I won’t delve into it for brevity, but I encourage you to objectively analyze your relationship with your parents. When I did that, I realized they were the source of my insecurities. Their constant criticism disguised as “jokes” and boundary breaking spawned that horrible anxiety disorder. Maybe your parents have done something similar?

    Read The Body Keeps the Score. It echoes pretty much everything I’ve said here. The best part? It’s empirically validated, no woo-woo bullshit.

    I hope this helped even a tiny bit.




  • The lack of continuous and backlogged content. For some this is a benefit because it gives them a reason to stop scrolling, but for others who come here to look for answers, find entertainment, or anonymously voice their opinions, this can be something of a downside.

    Of course this platform is as anonymous as you make it, but I’ve seen some people say they refrain from commenting more often because they don’t want to be known as a regular, instead wanting to “blend in to the crowd” as one would on more populous sites like Reddit or Twitter.