I’m a 42M, my wife is 37. We’ve got a great marriage, super happy, everything’s solid. About a year ago, we met this guy (36M) through some mutual friends, and over time he’s become really close to us. We hang out all the time, meals, weekends, trips, you name it. Lately there have been some running jokes about how we’re basically a throuple already, and those jokes have been getting a little more… not-jokey. For the record, I’m not into guys and neither is he. But honestly, the idea is kind of exciting in a weird way, and I really like having him around, he feels like a best friend at this point. My wife’s also open to it. So yeah… would it be totally nuts to actually explore this?
I’m recently divorced. My ex wife met a couple who were swingers and had an open marriage. So of course she wanted to do this. I felt like I had to say yes because I cheated on her in the past which I felt horrible about and was a huge mistake. So we had an open marriage for years and dated all sorts of people. It destroyed our marriage and amplified our contempt for each other. It really didn’t help that she was a narcissist. Every woman I met through this process was 100% shopping for a new husband. One in particular I’ve seen pop up on my LinkedIn suggested connections. She has a new last name. I filed for divorce last year because I couldn’t live with the fallout from our choices. It’s your life but from my perspective, this is a huge mistake if you love your wife. Best of luck.