I’m a 42M, my wife is 37. We’ve got a great marriage, super happy, everything’s solid. About a year ago, we met this guy (36M) through some mutual friends, and over time he’s become really close to us. We hang out all the time, meals, weekends, trips, you name it. Lately there have been some running jokes about how we’re basically a throuple already, and those jokes have been getting a little more… not-jokey. For the record, I’m not into guys and neither is he. But honestly, the idea is kind of exciting in a weird way, and I really like having him around, he feels like a best friend at this point. My wife’s also open to it. So yeah… would it be totally nuts to actually explore this?
Bad and stupid idea. Unless you’ve both always been polyamorous, randomly deciding to open your marriage at this point just because you met a good guy friend is fucking ridiculous. You said it yourself…your marriage is good and you’re happy. Why risk that?
That being said, if this suggestion is coming from your wife then you may have some serious warning signs here. Sounds like she’s attracted to this guy friend or looking for more. I think you have to have some serious conversations with your wife. Your marriage may not be as happy as you think. I actually am suspecting that your wife may already be having sex with this guy. You really need to sit her down and have a serious talk man. Hopefully I’m wrong.
Good luck OP!