

Most people I know meet up for coffee.
I don’t think its uncommon to have a beer at a restaurant or as a drink or dinner. Meeting up at a bar for drinks as a first date feels funky, at least in my region.
If that’s not your jam then probably don’t push into it. A date should be a comfy experience for everyone involved, if possible.
Online PvP has always been toxic, but modern game communities have definitely cultivated a special kind of toxic.