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Cake day: December 14th, 2024

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  • You could start with your oldest memories of him. That could help with building the new relationship.

    But: no one of us knows what things he has learned there, during 11 years. But I am sure there are some bad things among it.

    So I think it would be best to be careful at all times. Tell him that you hardly know him, but treat him like you don’t know him at all.

    Edit: one more thing comes to my mind. I interpret from your posting (I may be wrong) that you did not visit him regularly. Then this is going to be an issue.

    You shouldn’t avoid it. Think about it.

    If you are going to apologize, do it soon, and try to be open about it (surely there were reasons, and there were circumstances). Maybe he would still hold a grudge from it for some more time. Then accept it, because it simply needs time.













  • She was supportive of him taking a second wife, with just one request: no more children.

    Unfair! Overstepping! None of her business! She just wanted to limit who the heirs will be later.

    He is NOT bound to this in any way. Not at all, even if he has made promises to her accordingly.

    I think you must tell him this in very clear and explicit words, because I suspect that he is having such thoughts, and maybe still feels bound by her in this regard.